I just have to say—

After seeing my mom’s last post where talks about her expectations with my adoptive parents.

When you give your baby away for adoption, at least in the state of California. You are not, NOT, giving your baby to the adoptive parents.

You are not entering into a contract with the adoptive parents.

You are giving your child away to the state. If things go awry, you have no rights. T. has a post up about my particular agency and the pride they took in quality assurance. I have seen those papers about my baby self and they are chilling.

I wasn’t completely healthy when I was born, there was a big worry.

Adoption is a huge gamble. I know some people need to take it, but it needs to be presented for what it is, a huge gamble.