I imagine if you are in the adoptoland blogosphere you have heard about Mr. Scott Simon and his self-serving offering to adopto-land. God, knows we need another self-serving turtle like we need well, an adoptee with no self-esteem.
Mr. Scott Simon went to China with his pretty younger wife at age 50 no less and decided to become a first time parent. Because really, nothing staves off age like a young child. It is a miracle, I mean truly, because China’s GDP ranking will soon outsrip ours and we will be the ones in the export of babies market.
Via another miracle, it can only be described that way, NPR, his employer featured him twice weeping and carrying on about said miracle. There have been several good posts about this already if you visit adoption all -top, which Mr. Simon is now a fresh member of, because he has so much to say about adoption, in all its treacly wonderment. Some commenters on the original Simon story noted that he must love his children very much because he goes on the radio and cries about them.
Obviously, those commenters do not come from a Scando-American culture as I channeled my own amom when I left the helpful comment upon learning that this will go on a second time:
Oh please! Do tell me there is not going to be more weeping. The bathos off it all from his perspective is really too much. It is all too precious NPR, why don’t you grow-up and take off your adopter-colored glasses.
My amom is not a big fan of dramatic displays of emotion. In fact in the culture I was raised in that would be a definite sign of weakness of character and feeble-mindedness. I mean for crying out loud, HA! I went on the radio and spoke about the pain of having my records sealed, about not legally being allowed to know who my own mother was and managed to keep it together.
I mean I really lost a lot in the deal and managed not to go south with the bathos of it all. Anyway, another adoptive dad, screen name, “little-dog” attacked me as all adoptees who have the nerve to not shut their smart mouths and be grateful should be attacked and told me what for:
David Thompson (littledog3) wrote:
Lots of people out there who are filled with nastiness. Looks like Joy has some issues
I am just surprised he didn’t tell me to, “get help” I mean that always kills me, the so frequent assertion that adoptees have issues, I mean yeah duh, but that we also need to get help. As if help is available. Because no one has ever given me the resource to get help as if it is on every street corner. It doesn’t exist. For somethings, there is no help little dog, somethings just hurt like hell and that is how it is.
Yes, though, I have issues. You know who gets to decide I have issues, Little Dog, Mr. Scott Simon? You do. You get to decide if I have issues. Because you have the money and you have the power and I was born to a woman who was very vulnerable, making me a very vulnerable child. So dear sirs, you get to decide that I have issues.
You get to decide how I live, where I live and how I feel about my life.
I can tell you bitches this though, if I got to decide. If I was suddenly the power-player in this relationship, which fat-chance of that happening, but lets just say it did because I am all crazy like that. If the relationship was reversed dear sirs, you would have the issues and you would need to get help.
Do you know why you would need help with your issues? Because you think it is okay for first world dollars to buy babies. Because you were not able to accept the bounty that God gave you to be able to afford to buy a child and not use it to help families to stay together but instead profited off other’s misfortune. Because you have the arrogance to believe that you are somehow worthy of safety, comfort and your desires being met, while other’s aren’t. Becase, I live in a very multi-cultural environment, I actually work with FOB Chinese, Indians, and a whole host of other cultures that cause me confusion on American terms because their cultural markers are so different, that you cannot even hope to have made an ethical decision on their soil. You don’t know. It would be hard to know here and for sure you don’t know there.
“the most dangerous thing I have ever done in my life is talk about my adoption” true that.
You know why your babies were available for adotpion? Because of cultures that treated women like this:
Here is your miracle Scott. This is the miracle your money supports. Do I have issues with your arrogance? You betcha, and I am not sorry.
Scott Simon and David Thompson would cry themselves dry if their birth certificates were sealed. These “men” (and I use that term loosely) are nothing more than spoiled little brats who have been given everything they wanted because they wanted it! These people are nothing more than vultures who fed off the tragedy of mothers who lost their children due to poverty. No wonder the rest of the world thinks Americans are jerks, the ones traveling overseas and snatching babies are these vile creatures.
Oh, I love this. Must. Repost.
Yep Mara’s got my vote.
I have issues, too, as an adoptee, Joy. I’d like to join your adoptoland club. You blogged this so well. Vultures is a good way to describe the heinous theft of children and then sealing shut our identities. We are supposed to pretend and not be psycho about it. Americans still defend their culture is superior. What will happen when these men adopters are asked “what happened to me” by their Chinese doll baby? It’s American slavery when the doll can’t ask and assert her right to own her cultural identity.
Oh, Joy, this is brilliant. Seriously.
I don’t know the David Thompson guy, but I’ve had enough Scott Simon to last me two lifetimes. He needs to sit down and shut up.
Joy, this is genius, seriously. I used to really like listening to Scott Simon on Saturday mornings. I can’t do it any more. He truly doesn’t get it.
There is none so blind as he who will not see. You go get ‘em Joy. One of the best posts I have read on Mr. Simon’s story er …. issue.
So right on the money!! I used to think there were just drama queens. Now I know there are drama kings. Wonder when they will have the coronation at NPR?