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We Deserve an Apology

We do. This occurred to me yesterday for the first time really.
I was having a discussion about compromise with a large powerful religious organization who is anti-adoptee rights to our own personal information.
I started in my normal calm way of thinking and discussing this matter. I was going to point out that we [...]

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Adoption Pictures?

I noticed they are having a new carnival at Grown in my Heart. I have read many of the entries. I have become kind of fascinated in spite of myself on the different entries, for the different topics.
If for nothing else, it demonstrates how differently people can see the same situation. [...]

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Listen to this if you can and tell me at what point you figure out the kid is adopted

Is it at ‘he was a difficult child’
http://www.kqed.org/epArchive/R910261000
‘I took notes in the hospital while he was in ICU figuring I could write an article’
‘I had no maternal feelings and tried to intellectualize motherhood’
Oh and the beeeeeeeeyoooootiful smug, precious, ‘I am a writer an intellectual and all and somehow completely missed that tabula rasa is centuries [...]

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Validated Like a Parking Garage Ticket

I have to get my parking tickets punched with their purple numbers and letters all the time. It is kind of a pain in the neck but when that black and white striped bar lifts and you get out for free, it always gives me a bit of a thrill.
I know, I am easy [...]

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The Other Half of the Visit: Fools Rush in Where Angels Fear to Tread

I have always identified with the fool and the rushing in that expression.
We did a lot of things with our company, so it is not just like we had this one conversation about my personal adoption. After the initial explanation about our current situation and the difficulties it is fraught with my company decided [...]

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The Painting Maybe Should Go in the Closet

We had company again. This time it was company that I have been very close to, since I was about 14. Shirt-tail relatives if you will. Important people in my life.
They had somehow never seen the painting before. Or should I say the copy of the the painting to be accurate. [...]

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I just have to say—

After seeing my mom’s last post where talks about her expectations with my adoptive parents.
When you give your baby away for adoption, at least in the state of California. You are not, NOT, giving your baby to the adoptive parents.
You are not entering into a contract with the adoptive parents.
You are giving your child [...]

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What If?

I am not a big “what if” person. That is just not something I can relate to. Often I see people condemning “what if” scenarios as crazy-making. I don’t condemn, because frankly whenever I do indulge in scenarios not lived I get a lot of insight rather than frustration.
Sometimes I just get [...]

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My 10 things

Many people are doing the circus or whatever its called about adoption.
How they were “touched” hmmmm, yes. I was touched so to speak, in a place where no one was supposed to touch me as a very little child.
So here goes:
1. You are not responsible for all the parents in your life’s [...]

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OMG Someone is sick of the lies–

This mom has had enough
I hope she prevails. It is about time someone stood up to this “m’kay thanks for teh baybee, bai” routine that happens so often.

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